Few people who made my day!!

There are few poeple in my life just don't forget to wish on the special occasions.. Thanks tons for making my day!!

Kavita - With great combination of Beauty and Brain, women have overtaken the world to her stirde. Wishing on this special day, Happy Women's Day - Sri Sri

Ram - The Unique You, Happy Women's Day

SMS from Amma - A woman is GOD's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A woman is a bank where her family deposits all their anger, hurt & worries. She's the cement that keeps her family together. Her love lasts a lifetime. Three cheers to the woman in every family... Happy Women's Day!

Paiya - I really appreciate u for managing ur hardtime with full conifidence... thats what the women is.... Happy Women's Day...

Avi bhai - Happy Women's Day didi - you rock!!

Parag Bhau - Wishing you a day filled with goodness and warmth,Wishing you happiness... today and forever. You are cute daughters, You are adorable mothers, You are sweet sisters, You are darling wives, You are a source of strength, You are woman and we are proud of you!! Happy Women's Day!

Darl sis! - Happy Women's Day! God bless you loads

Raj - Happy Woman Ka Day :S [:D] *muaahzzz*, Soni.. "I Miss You!!"

Lionking -  wish u a happy womens day  Mwwaaaaaah


Manu: :-) Wish you hengasara dina...

Relationships... The three stages

The first stage of relationship - attraction in homyfying traits, like to see them, like to be with them, like to hang around with them.


The second stage - awareness, what you see in another person comes through attention, affection and appreciations. When u have ability to design relationships, you listen with the eyes of mind, listen with eyes of soul, listen with eyes of flesh. Ability to appreciate good thing in another person can happen only when u feel loving, affectionate through caring.


The third stage - communion soul connect with another soul - its based on equality, empathy, non judgement, integrity and telling the truth.


If you come across all these three stages, then there is possibility of intimacy. Intimacy is when you totally lose ur ego in the relationship, where u feel defenseless, nothing to defense, no point to defense and expose ur vulnerability, where u go beyond time to timeless awareness, where ur totally natural, there is no manipulation, no control, no cajole, no convincing, no seduction.


In spite of knowing the facts, having the knowledge, we yet tend to go wrong in relationships... that would be a freewill I guess..

Too Far....

It's been ages I have got few lines out of me... Lastnight I could jott few lines all of a sudden! :-)

It's too far from everything and is lonely, I don't know what my mind wants,
When I looked, I noticed it's so crowded around me,
Everyone is busy and restless, they all look strangers,
The strings used to tie everyone together is not that strong anymore,
I am looking for someone who is really/truely mine, but I wonder if that dream will ever come true,

It's too far from everything and is lonely, I don't know what my mind wants
When I looked, I noticed that it's so crowded around me!!

To lie is to betray - to pretend to love is to betray self and partner

All the lies, pretentions to love someone, finally hope you realise how it is inside you and the importance of true love, the truthfullness towards self and the partner.

Being away in different situations as yours, you will see d true being of a person. Wanting a person is different from loving a person. Needing a person is different from loving a person.

Ego cries, ego messes, ego lies, ego pretends, just to keep you hoping untill too late to change partner.

It's no love at all, just the ego game, pretention to love someone.

Pretention is a betrayal of your own needs as well betrayal of your partner. It's more like giving and taking oral sex. Empty promises, empty of true love. "There is no point saying I LOVE YOU again and again when you truly know deep in your heart you really dont love your partner". At no time, under no circumstances should anyone ever say "I LOVE YOU" wihtout feeling that very moment of magic flow in your heart.

Eveyrone needs love, true love, need to be ready prepared and pure in heart to give and accept all love. All tantrums of love.

It's takes time to leave back the wrong partner for all those tears we shed for them.

Truthfulness is an absolute need for success in life, in love life and in all eternal aspects of life. To feel guilty is of no benefit to either - it simply shows and proves you that you made substantial mistakes by pretending to love someone without really feeling that magic true love for that one.

A love relationship is like driving a car - both car and road is needed. Roads might have bumps n ditches, just like ups and downs in life. Yet you don't stop driving car! but you stop loving someone cause of your own weakness of accepting them.

Either of us are wrong, most of our energy is wasted or lost in life instead of uplifting, inspiring and healing each other which gets couple closer and closer and so the relationship lasts longer

Being true and not pretending is so needed in a relationship, atleast to your own heart, then to be true to your partner.

The true love is felt each day, eveyr moment, but not when pretended.

The strong and true love remains no matter what happens, no matter what happened in past and no matter what future brings. I beleive only such love can last eternally, travelling together from hell to heaven n heaven to hell is an terenal journey.

The Self

It's been years I blogged, but getting back to the lost habit again, hope to write often from now on.

Thoughts bombarding my mind since many days, life has been so hectic, lastnight I decided to give time for myself all alone. I sit by the river, looking at the dark sky, the shining stars, the lights around, reflection of lights in the river. It's so beautiful.

Sometimes it gets difficult to understand the person you are in relationship with, especially when sometimes when we don't even understand ourselves. What is the reason behind these imbalancing feelings? How does people change their view about someone so easily? Why do people pretend?

Humans are so complex. Ones behavior depends on emotions, beliefs, point of views etc.. combine that with another person who is driven by different emotions, beliefs, point of views creates a big time emotional dramas and chaos. Some take it positively, some negetively, some pretend.

I recently learnt several foundational elements affect all relationships, call it love, work or family were principally driven by different images.

For the first time I understood the reasons why people get into emotionally dramatic relationship and why they stay there as long as they could. When I became aware of these unseen forces I knew where to make the changes to avoid the roller coaster of emotions that I had been on.

I am yet trying to look at the diagrams in my mind, how the images drive our emotions, behaviors, and decisions in relationships. It is through our awareness we trap ourselves to begin to get out of the drama. Possibility of living outside the illusion of Relationship Matrix. That experience is lived aithetically in the heart with the emotion of love and respect. False images of ourselves and each other form the basis for emotional reactions. I realised if we want to make permanent meaningful changes in our relationship dynamics, we should address the real cause – the images we carry in our minds of ourselves, and each other.

We don’t have just one self-image - we have many, and our emotional behaviors in relationships, and how we feel about ourselves, arise from these images. This gets even more complicated when we consider that the other person in the relationship has behaviors and agreements driven by their self images. These images exist as belief structures in the mind and are often difficult to see in the beginning, but as you develop awareness, it becomes easier.

In order to see these images, start by noticing your thinking, internal dialogue, and what you say about yourself and other people. So I beleive the more time you give yourself, the better understand yourself and others....

Surrender to Succeed

Word surrender is one of the most beautiful words in the English language. But I feel it is also one of the most difficult of deeds. I am not talking about surrender of the military kind, but a kind of personal surrender in which you simply let go. Such surrender gives rise to an experience of beautiful serenity within, something that most of us have felt at some time or the other, but can’t seem to sustain it permanently.

If surrender brings so much peace, why is it so difficult? It’s because of our ‘ego’. This tiny, three-letter word has a significant impact on the quality of our lives. Our ego wants us to be in control of everything in and around us-our relationships, our health, our careers. The ego wants things its way and when that doesn’t happen, it reacts by evoking all kinds of unhealthy emotions. I wouldn’t be off the mark if I say that our ego is at the root of all our miseries. Fear, anxiety, guilt, frustration, greed, jealousy and all other emotions that don’t feel good, are always the result of the ego’s villainous insistence on being in control.


Because of our ego, we give excessive importance to winning. Our ego-driven society offers all the glory to winners, while losers are severely criticized. What’s worse is that those who fail to win actually believe that they’ve made a big blunder by losing. To the ego, a loss is evidence of lack of total control-and the ego hates it. So, many individuals simply don’t attempt anything because they fear losing. In the process, they live ordinary lives filled with little, if any, happiness in it.


The only antidote to problems that our ego creates is surrender. Your rogue ego cannot do much when you let go of your need to be right, to win, or to succeed at any cost. It may seem paradoxical, but when you live constantly in a mindset of surrender, you start functioning more efficiently because you now live minus the constant nagging of your nasty ego to live only to win-or else suffer.


But surrender cannot be achieved using the mind. Surrendering is an act of absolute trust. You trust existence and accept the unalterable truth that life is made up of ups and downs. When you trust God, a higher power, or existence, you will suddenly find yourself to be in complete control of your own life. You will live fully, totally in the moment without worrying about being ahead, being right, winning or succeeding. It will improve your chances of success and you will find that the quality of your life has enhanced.

Embrace Change

Years go by, unchanged. Then life changes, suddenly. What seemed unthinkable for years, happens. Without warning. This unpredictability is what gives our life its character. Things change. Situations change. Societies change. Even individuals change. Yet, human beings seem wired to resist change. We always seem to wish for status quo. This resistance to change gives rise to emotional conflicts within us and is at the heart of the emotional turmoil we experience.

Ironically, it is universally accepted that change is inevitable. Moreover, incremental change doesn’t affect us too much and is therefore easier to put up with. It’s those sudden, discontinuous, changes that are disruptive. To be sure, disruption is not always negative. It simply ensures that the way things were done or the way life was lived, doesn’t remain the same.

When we fall in love, most often it produces discontinuous change. Falling in love is involuntary, not a choice we make. But we still have a choice whether to follow those instincts. Of course, human beings are not always rational, least of all, in love. So love, even though it’s not, appears to be involuntary.

So change, incremental or discontinuous, is an indelible facet of life. The universe is in a continuous state of flux. Embracing change means bringing, and keeping, in our awareness its permanent nature. Once we embrace change instead of fighting it, we begin to live in the here and now-and that....